You see someone you would like to know. Your heart beats fast, and your mind goes empty. You do not need a clever line. You need one easy question.
Use the place
The place is safe, and you both can see it.
Is this seat free? Is this your first time here?
Say something true and small
A small true sentence is better than a big clever one.
The coffee here is good. I come every morning.
Ask a real question
Ask something you want to know, not something to fill time.
What do you do here? How do you know Anna?
Listen, then follow
Do not plan your next question while they speak. Listen for one word, and ask about it.
You said you moved here. When?
Say your name
At the end, give your name, and offer a small next step.
I am Mei. I am here on Fridays too.
Words to remember
- conversation — talking with another person
- clever — quick and smart
- follow — to continue after something
- offer — to say you can do something
Questions & answers
Q: What if I say something silly?
People forget small silly things quickly. Smile, and ask another question.
Q: How do I know if they want to talk?
Short answers and no questions back mean "not now". Say, "Nice to meet you", and stop.
Q: Is it okay to speak first?
Yes. Many people are waiting for someone else to start.
Q: What if my English is slow?
Slow is fine. Say, "I am still learning English." Most people become kinder.
Q: What should I not ask?
Do not ask about money, age or religion. Ask about the place, the moment, or a shared friend.